“I Read Your Blog, Neil”

The smartest man in the room.   My dad.

He doesn’t know how much his words today mean to me.  My father, “Rav Larry”, “S’ruel Schmuel”, made my day.  A week ago, we went to shul together.  It was the 2nd day of Passover.  My father, my children and I went to synagogue.  At the seder that night, he choked up at how much it meant to him that we went to shul together.  He thanked me for leading the service.  I was proud of him for sharing those words with me.  Today, he said something else that will sit with me forever . . .

“I read your blog, Neil”.  I looked at him, assuming that he had already read it.  My look must have invited a response — “I hadn’t read through the whole thing, but I did — I read through everything, every page.”


I have never been good at receiving compliments.  It has never been easy to hear them.  I have for a long time chosen not to believe the good stuff others see or say that they see in me.  My spouse.  My mom.  My kids.  My friends.  A good friend describes a “shtetl” mentality . . . the Cossacks always around the corner, if you will.   The look on my face must’ve spoke volumes —


Two hours later, I am processing it — afraid to let it sink in:

I’m proud of you, Neil.  I read your blog.  I sat down to read it . . . all of it.  It’s good.   Poignant.

He read my blog . . . is proud of me and thought it was good.

Dad, thank you . . . I love you.  Thank you very much.



One response to ““I Read Your Blog, Neil”

  1. Dear neilrockind:

    My name is Leora Trub and I am a student in the Clinical Psychology Ph.D. Program at The Graduate Center of the City University of New York (CUNY). I am conducting a study of the reasons that people blog and what benefits it brings, which at this point are still largely unexplored in research studies. I am therefore reaching out to you as a blogger who can help deepen our understanding of this phenomenon. I believe that your voice is an important one to be heard and hope you will enjoy participating in the study. I have developed an online questionnaire that asks about specific aspects of blogging as well as asking about feelings about yourself and others in your life. The survey is a mix of numerical scales and opportunities to reflect in an open-ended format about the role of blogging in your life, and how it has changed over time.

    You are eligible to participate if you are at least 21 years of age and have been maintaining an English-language personal blog for at least six months that you update or visit at least twice a week (on average). Your participation involves completing a confidential online questionnaire. The data will be downloaded onto a secure server to which only I have access. No identifying information, such as your names or address, will be collected. If you desire, you may choose not to share your blog name, in which case I will not access your blog for any reason after this point. If you do share your blog name, it will NOT be connected to your responses in the survey. Additionally, you will be given the opportunity to be identified by a code name in research reports and to have your blog description changed slightly so it cannot be identified.

    The survey takes approximately 45 minutes to complete and participation is completely voluntary. Three participants who complete the survey will be randomly selected by a lottery to receive a $75 cash prize.

    There are no foreseeable risks to participation in the study. Although some of the questions are personal in nature, participation in the study provides an opportunity to think about the role that your blog plays in your life.

    If you have any questions about this research, you can contact me at (732) 407-7928 or ltrub@gc.cuny.edu, or my advisors Dr. Arietta Slade at (212) 650-5658 or arietta.slade@gmail.com and Dr. Tracey Revenson at (212) 817-8709 or trevenson@gc.cuny.edu.

    The study has been approved by the Institutional Review Board of the Graduate School of the City University of New York and meets of their guidelines as well as all state and federal guidelines for research with human participants. If you have any concerns about the project at any time, you can contact Ms. Kay Powell, Institutional Review Board at the Graduate School of the City University of New York (212) 817-7525 or kpowell@gc.cuny.edu.

    In order to participate in this study, I need to send you an invitation through survey monkey. If you are interested, please send an email to ltrub@gc.cuny.edu from the email address to which you would like the invitation sent. I hope that you will decide to participate and also that you will share it with others if you decide you would like to. Please feel free to contact me with any questions.


    Leora Trub, M.A.
    Doctoral student in Clinical Psychology
    Graduate School of the City University of New York
    365 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY 10016-4309

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